Understanding Stress: Understanding and Resolving Stress


Our world is undergoing rapidly changing changes that have the effect of increasing stress in our lives. It is, however, possible to control and even eliminate stress by changing our perception of events.

Stress is a defense reaction to a situation perceived as negative, threatening or dangerous. I would like to emphasize the word „perceived“ because it is our perception that determines whether a situation is negative or not. There are people who perceive others’ judgments as menacing, while for others it is only information.

Stress has to do with experience. There are people who are comfortable walking on a beam a hundred feet in the air as they have the training required to do it, while for a person like you and me the stress associated with fear of falling, Would be enormous. The level of stress you experience is inversely proportional to the level of self-esteem. In other words, the more a person has a strong self-esteem, the less stress is present in his or her life.

Stress manifests itself when a person is divided within himself / herself between a desire (need) and a fear. For example, Jeannette has the desire to solve a personal problem, but her fear of failure causes her a lot of stress. Louise passes an interview for a job, her desire to succeed is faced with a fear of not being up to the job, resulting in considerable stress. Melanie would like to speak in public but her fear of not succeeding prevents it. People who have a lot of stress often have many internal dualities.

Recall that stress is a defense mechanism against a situation perceived as negative or dangerous for survival. Obviously, some situations are dangerous. Walk on the edge of a 20-storey building, for example, or stand in the middle of a highway at rush hour. The biggest problem with stress is that our body does not differentiate between a fear that really threatens our survival and a psychological fear.

For the subconscious, a fear of being hit by an automobile or a fear of asking for a pay raise will mobilize the body’s defense system as a protection mechanism in the face of imminent danger. The body becomes energized, produces more adrenaline, the heart beats faster and gives more oxygen to the muscles to prepare to fight or leak, concentration decreases and the senses become more alert, the immune system Activates by producing a larger number of white blood cells, etc.

Given that the mechanisms of physiological reactions of the subconscious to a fear for the survival of the physical body are the same as for emotional fears, what happens when a person has many fears? … The body Remains in a state of alert and permanent defense. This state of permanent alertness depletes the immune system and produces various symptoms such as loss of concentration, loss of memory, loss of interest and motivation, including chronic fatigue, burnout, Or depression.

There are two types of stress, „positive stress“ based on excitement, enthusiasm, laughter and passion to accomplish. This stress is related to positive emotions, it is the stress of healthy people. There is also the negative stress produced by our fears, anxieties, insecurities and internal dualities; This is the one on which Dr. Hans Seylié has researched.

Understanding stress: It is our perception of a situation that causes stress not the situation itself.

You perceive your reality through the colorful filters of your beliefs. Beliefs affect how we respond to various situations. Since each individual is not raised with the same beliefs, a situation perceived as negative and stressful by one person will be perceived as positive and stimulating by another. If a situation causes you negative stress, examine the beliefs that produce this stress if you want to replace it with positive stress. 

There is a major difference between controlling stress and eliminating stress. Medication, natural products, healthy eating, massage therapy and good physical exercises will keep stress under control, but if there is no change in attitudes, habits and behaviors, Be maintained. Other mental-type approaches such as meditation, relaxation, visualization and positive thinking will also help keep stress under control. However, when these tools and techniques are not enough, a change in beliefs leading to a change in habits, attitudes, behaviors and perceptions becomes necessary.

Many people eliminate the stress of their lives by keeping it in the dormant state. How? By renouncing their dreams and desires in order to avoid the internal limitations associated with realizing their dreams and desires. By doing so another type of stress is created: the stress of deprivation. Think about it! How many things would you like to do and do not do because of the stress of being afraid of not being able to do these things? … The more fear a person has, the more he will hesitate and the greater the stress in his life.

Some stress can not be avoided: stress related to rapid changes in your environment; Stress related to job changes at work; Stress due to money worries; Stress due to relational problems, etc.

It is necessary to accept negative stress if you really want to turn it into positive stress. Ask yourself: What do I need to reduce or eliminate this stress? A good massage, a vacation, a stay in the forest, a relaxation or positive visualization session, identify and change the beliefs that produce negative stress and transform it into positive stress? Whatever your need, act and fill it now. If you wait until circumstances are favorable to act, it will not happen. It is your decision to act that will make the circumstances favorable.

Most stresses are emotional natures, learn to manage your emotions and you will improve your health, your personality and your efficiency not only to be good about yourself but also to do what you want and get what you want with more Of ease. Become the gardener of your home. The only reason for negative stress is to turn it into a positive stress of trust, joie de vivre, happiness and other good feelings. Is there not underneath each fear a hidden talent?

Learn to laugh more, relax and meditate; Go into nature, develop attitudes of positive thinking; Change your beliefs and, more than any other, do what gives you pleasure and what makes you happy in life.